Congratulations on getting to go to Camp. You'll have a wonderful time. If you can, I highly recommend taking off the day after to recover from Camp-drop.
As for Dom/sub relations, you're right, it is on a case by case basis because no two Doms or subs are the same. I don't have any specific timetable about those things, I tend to trust my instincts. Although sometimes that gets me into trouble. I really should set a rule though. I think 10 playdates is probably good. That's probably enough to really get to know a partner's likes/dislikes, wants/desires, and make sure it's a good fit.
You're right darling, you do deserve better. And you certainly do NOT have to live with the pain just to enjoy time with people you care about. If they are worth anything they will follow you away from the one(s) who is(are) hurting you, and if they don't follow well FUCK THEM.
Enjoy your time at camp and I'll try to enjoy my time in my birth city.
As in most things within this lifestyle there's no set definition that works for all people or their relationships. For some under consideration is a step taken to show that the relationship has gone past a point of being overly casual but that the two involved aren't quite mutually at a point where the formality of a collar works. Others use "under consideration" to denote the status of being in training and that the formal collar/ownership status is a goal at the end of a specific series of goals having been met by both the Dominant and the submissive. The only way you could lessen your concerns for anyone you know who's involved in either a "strung along" or moving too fast situation is to talk to them or talk to the Dominant in question. Communication is the key in all sorts of relationships even that of casual friend within this lifestyle.
Glad to see you got to attend Camp and had such an amazing time. :)
You are quite right Ms, communication is VERY important in this lifestyle and in all relationships. I just sometimes worry that I would be butting in too much if I question people I am not very very close friends with.
Since posting this I have done some more research (mostly first hand experiences) and I am constantly learning that openness is the key. It can be refreshing, motivating, and powerful.
Congratulations on getting to go to Camp. You'll have a wonderful time. If you can, I highly recommend taking off the day after to recover from Camp-drop.
ReplyDeleteAs for Dom/sub relations, you're right, it is on a case by case basis because no two Doms or subs are the same. I don't have any specific timetable about those things, I tend to trust my instincts. Although sometimes that gets me into trouble. I really should set a rule though. I think 10 playdates is probably good. That's probably enough to really get to know a partner's likes/dislikes, wants/desires, and make sure it's a good fit.
You're right darling, you do deserve better. And you certainly do NOT have to live with the pain just to enjoy time with people you care about. If they are worth anything they will follow you away from the one(s) who is(are) hurting you, and if they don't follow well FUCK THEM.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your time at camp and I'll try to enjoy my time in my birth city.
xoxo uberwren
I want the camp stories now! :)
ReplyDeleteAs in most things within this lifestyle there's no set definition that works for all people or their relationships. For some under consideration is a step taken to show that the relationship has gone past a point of being overly casual but that the two involved aren't quite mutually at a point where the formality of a collar works. Others use "under consideration" to denote the status of being in training and that the formal collar/ownership status is a goal at the end of a specific series of goals having been met by both the Dominant and the submissive. The only way you could lessen your concerns for anyone you know who's involved in either a "strung along" or moving too fast situation is to talk to them or talk to the Dominant in question. Communication is the key in all sorts of relationships even that of casual friend within this lifestyle.
ReplyDeleteGlad to see you got to attend Camp and had such an amazing time. :)
You are quite right Ms, communication is VERY important in this lifestyle and in all relationships. I just sometimes worry that I would be butting in too much if I question people I am not very very close friends with.
ReplyDeleteSince posting this I have done some more research (mostly first hand experiences) and I am constantly learning that openness is the key. It can be refreshing, motivating, and powerful.